Hermit crabs are small, cute & interesting pets. They salvage empty seashells to protect their soft abdomens from harm. They move about carrying their shell. When you go near a hermit crab, be sure not to make so much movement, they will curl and hide inside the shell because they are afraid.
Don’t worry; I’m not here to promote hermit crabs :)
Sometimes, our lives are like a hermit crab. We hide in the shell, not just to protect our own self, but hide our true self from people around us. The environment around us doesn’t allow us to be who we are. We can’t live up to the expectations and we can’t trust what’s outside. We are bound to be vulnerable if we reveal our true self.
Do you feel that you are like a hermit crab – sometimes afraid to come out, sometimes not wanting to come out?
Do you also feel that sometimes you could be the one not giving people the space to make mistakes and be who they really are.
Do feel free to share.
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I do feel like a hermit crab indeed... by not showing my true self... not that i'm putting on a mask totally, but being who we are exposes us to be hurt and manipulated by people... people we don't know whether to trust...
Yeah! When i was myself, people take advantage wan! Even some ppl I tot my close college friends hurt me when I showed a few 'real things' about myself. Like when I told them I never had a boyfriend before, they tot I was lesbian! But i later met a bunch of ppl who were so open and they just 'trust' me that they show the real selves wan. and when they make mistake, they admit and say its their weakness, or like one person keep burping loudly wan...i tot at first 'yucks...' but after a while, i realise it just show how they are comfortable with me and not afraid to be a bit yucky. Not that we shud all go and burp in public all d time lah.
udk
Yes I'm hiding. I'm hiding certain parts of me, and keeping the safer sides for public viewing. Yet, they are both me. Its a long process...this 'learning to be your true self whenever'. But I'm getting there, and I hope u guys reading this are too.
=) i feel happy the most when i'm myself. i can do what i want. although sometimes ppl think that i'm a lil' kuku. but sometimes, i just don't care. caring too much chokes me. however, must remind myself to draw a line. have to look at the situation also la, because we live in a culturaly rich country with many codes of ethics... when we meet up with royalty.. have to say, "junjung tuanku" la. takkan "yo, tuankku, whazup..." hahahhahaa... we call that manners.
am i wrong when i say, we're brought up with many guide lines of how to react, how to behave, what to say in certain situations that we aren't able to practice "freewill"?
once in a while.. when times are tough, our souls are weary.. the shell is the best place to rejuvenate.. mun yoke
Mun Yoke, thank you for sharing.
I agree wif you. When society put a lot of expectation on us in how to behave, just following is sometimes easier than 'being myself'. Cos being myself, have to think whether its ok anot with someone, whether someone else can accept what I do, or will they look down on me if I say I am a smoker....
Its a bit sad that even 'friends' dun let me be myself. Shudn't they be able to accept me as I am? with the nice part and the ugly parts as well? Otherwise, they r just friends with half of me.
But then again, mebe I oso dun let them be themselves when I 'judge' some of their actions too fast.
udk
mun yoke, udk: thanks for sharing. agree with you guys :)and like mun yoke, i feel most happy when i'm being myself, or when i'm with people who allow me to be who i truly am :)
"I created you in your inmost being"
Aren't we glad that it is YHWH Elohim, the Creator God who created the different types of personalities? Let's learn to appreciate not only our unique personalities, but also those different from us.
-anon 1- ;)
whats so great about who we really are anyway? I think maybe it's all egocentric to believe that we need to appreciate what we have.
"I am dust, and to dust I shall return"
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